The doubt about bonding and loving a child from a donor egg is common. Women are afraid that they will not love the child that will arise because it will not be “theirs”. Such thought is completely normal.
Fortunately, there is material that proves that genetic connection does not play a role in the creation and evolution of this complex bonding process. What plays an important role is to have an environment of support and trust but always within the appropriate limits. Fortunately, the genetic connection between the child and the caregiver-parent does not matter if this bond is healthy.
Decide on how you are going to proceed in this as a family.
Another usual question is whether we tell the family and the children that we used donor eggs. Researches show that children want to know their origin and the younger we inform them about it, the easier it becomes for them to become part of their identity. In the end, they do not care whose was the egg.
When growing up, the questions become more and more complicated in an effort to understand themselves and the world around them. So, think such discussions as an ongoing process and not as a formal announcement to a family council when they “grow up”.
Children, like adults, live happily when their life experience is lived as normal, not as embarrassing. In this way they learn to trust themselves and others around them.